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01/24/2018 at 5:24 pm #26762
When I was a kid, freedom was a big deal. People talked about freedom all the time. This encouraged me to think of freedom as something to attain…a goal. Although I didn’t understand this at the time, freedom meant autonomy, agency, self-assurance. Freedom was always a thing to be earned. It was a given that it could be taken away (by adults) if abused.
So what was this freedom? Easy. The freedom to exist in the world in some way, without adults around. Simple. Why was that important? Time spent around adults was often a time of stress, tension, conflict (over things I didn’t understand, and often didn’t even know about.) What I did know was how good it felt to be away from that tension.
That was the kind of freedom that grew self-assurance – the ability to deal with things on one’s own, solve problems (after sometimes creating them!) and, in short – engaging in the process of learning how to grow up and think for oneself.
Curiously – the adults in my life who created most of my childhood’s tensions – had no problem granting me this freedom (to go away from them, and be out in the world on my own.) Of course there were always rules, expectations, but the freedom to go was almost always there….after school, after supper….weekends….and all summer holidays long.
So there it is. When I was a kid, childhood was all about freedom. I don’t think I could have survived my childhood without it. And that freedom – was not at all an abstract concept. It was as real as the smile on my face, past the driveway down the sidewalk and around the corner, out of sight.
I had no idea at the time that I had human rights. I don’t know that I would have quite understood what those were supposed to be. But I had enough of a taste of freedom to know what it is worth, what it can do, and why.04/09/2018 at 9:13 pm #27460
I was raised in the country so i had plenty of freedom since the worse i had to worry about was snakes. My wife and i have had a few arguements because i want our kids to have the freedoms that i did but she says that’s next to impossible in the city and i just disagree. I disagree because if you raise your kid right then the chances of something happen are reduced. Lets face it, we cant protect our childern everyday all day. Ypu live in a bad area, there’s nothing that can stop a random bullet, you cant stop a car that runs a light/sign and if a kidnapper reallywants that kid, they’re going to get them. A kid’s worst enemy in my opinion is their friend(s) and peer pressure. Hopefully raising them right will help them find good friends and not bad ones as a good friend wont offer you drugs and pressure you to take them.
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