This topic contains 14 replies, has 15 voices, and was last updated by texaninnyc 2:07 pm on July 31, 2019.
04/04/2018 at 8:04 pm #27400
Here’s what we’re using, although it comes down to maturity over age at times.
Climb trees: Never help but no lower limit
use hammer: age 4
Use knife: age 5
sleep overs, hand saw with supervision: age 6
cross streets by self, go within a few blocks if able to confirm arrival: age 7
sleep in treehouse with friends with adults inside: age 805/30/2018 at 6:23 am #28133
<span id=”result_box” class=”short_text” lang=”en”><span class=””>I only allow you to do what you do not fear</span></span>.
Use knife 4 years
Cross streets (<span id=”result_box” class=”short_text” lang=”en”><span class=””>Watching hidden a few meters</span></span>) 5 years06/28/2018 at 2:47 pm #28553
Started teaching knife at 4 (oldest is 5).
Stay home alone… this is tricky. I can technically say since birth since I have done quick down-the-street sprints of the 5 minute variety when the babies were sleeping. If Dad is nearish, if the kids are occupied safely, I will run out for ten minutes.06/29/2018 at 1:24 pm #28565
We started with a “montessori” knife at 18 months (it’s a kitchen chopper with the handle on top).
My little sister (youngest of 5) was crossing our quiet one-way street at age 6, which makes me think that’s a good age to start. I think my oldest brother had to wait til he was 8. 😀07/08/2018 at 1:21 pm #28635
Using a knife at 5. Now 9 and uses a knife unsupervised except for really hard veggies.
Walking to/from school bus stop at 6 (about 2 blocks from home – no roads to cross).
Stays home for short periods since shortly before turning 9. We have practiced! There are rules! She FaceTimes every 15 minutes 🙂07/29/2018 at 3:02 pm #28867
We only have one but I agree it depends on maturity and capability and personality, somewhat. Our son was always ambitious and had great dexterity and was a bit impulsive as a toddler so I taught him early on some things.
Climbing no limits though I stayed closer until about age 3 and supervised pretty much until he got to the age when he wanted me to see how high!
Trampoline age 4 (with net)
Knife age 4
Stove age 6
Gas stove age 8
Wood stove age 10
Home alone short periods age 7
Home alone a whole day 12
Allowed to roam free at Park or amusement park with friend age 10 (mainly because that’s when he got his own phone)
He is now 13 and just gave him first driving lesson on the stick shift!09/04/2018 at 10:27 am #29289
Walk to school alone 5, bike to school alone 6. I’ve had to work with/fight the city to make the route safer from vehicle traffic because no one has had their kids walk in our neighborhood for 20 years. I’ve also worked with the school district, principals, and PTA to do bike/walk to school days and to decrease parents driving (they’re honestly a huge part of the traffic safety issue!). Now my kids have ~5-8 other kids who walk daily.
Knife to help with meal prep, 5-6.
Home alone 6. We got an Amazon Alexa so they can make “calls” since we don’t have a house phone.
Our kids are now almost 7 and 8, and the younger one has a diagnosis of severe anxiety. He is capable of doing things like going in a grocery store on his own to buy milk, and he feels so proud of his contribution to the family!09/06/2018 at 3:55 pm #29335
Our 7 1/2 yo daughter in home-educated, making “walk to school” moot. At 5 yo she began “staying home alone”, but only after a fashion. I would be working in nearby fields, and she knew she could flag me back if needed, because on each pass I’d look at the place I told her to stand if she wanted me. Mama was working off the farm and some days my time out of the house approached two hours. Things might be a bit topsy-turvy when I got back, but she’d usually get things back in order as I cooked dinner or supper.
These days the tractor thing continues, but still restricted to two hours. When she was 6 yo I might actually leave the farm for 15 minutes to get power-steering fluid or something at the local parts place, about 5 miles away. Mama still works off the farm, but part-time. This year our daughter and I are both comfortable of absences up to about 45 minutes, but still only in the local town. She has the phone numbers of the places I’ll be going if she needs me home right away [no cell phone].
The home-alones will gradually lengthen, with a target of several hours by age 11.10/17/2018 at 11:45 am #29715
Our oldest is 4 so we don’t have many milestones. However, I just started letting her play at the park across the street unsupervised. I’m a little bit paranoid about getting reported, but I can literally see her from my front window, plus our neighborhood is comically safe and neighborly.
Next step is letting her 3-year-old sister come too.11/12/2018 at 10:48 pm #30013
My son is almost nine he sometimes comes home from school before me. He gives me a call with the Ipad to let me know he is home. He lets the dog out and grabs a snack. The most he has to wait is 30min.
My daughter is 4 she is sometimes by her self when I am out in the street chatting with neighbors or getting the mail.
I let them play in the front of the house unsupervised the rule is to stay where I can easily find them when I come out and that the older one has to keep an eye on the little one.
Last summer I left my son in the car at the groceries store because he left his shoes at home. He had to wait about 5min. A week later I had a letter in the mail from Child protecting service. Well I guess I wont do that anymore until he is 18 lol.
01/14/2019 at 12:27 pm #30657
- This reply was modified 9 months, 2 weeks ago by mamatherese.
our daughter is almost 4
Knife – we have a pretty fantastic learning helper towers that get her to a level to help us prep food. she’s been prepping food with us and using a knife since she turned 3.
Scissors – likewise, using a small pair of regular scissors since she was 3 (maybe 3 1/2). Taught her how to walk with them and hold them, and she is following what she learned.
Climbing Trees – as soon as she showed interest. About 2 1/2.
Stove – our daughter inherited the my wife’s Vintage Little Chef Child’s Electric Stove/oven. We just introduced her to it last month and she has heated up her own soup and has baked her own cookies. So age 3 3/4.03/07/2019 at 2:18 pm #31256
It has only been in the last year or so that we have been able to let my child (now 10) stay at home by herself for more than 30 minutes. Where we lived it was age 11. We had to have a card stating her information and also notify the librarians so she could be alone there during day hours. When she was nine I was at a gas station pumping gas and fixing things in the back end. I sent her in to use the bathroom (single stalls). A worker came out to find me, because the policy was that they couldn’t let her leave the store. As in she might get taken by a stranger at that point. I’ve also had her walk the dog (bulldog mastiff mix) around the rest stops while I used the facilities only to have security tell me that they would rather she & the dog stay in the car due to policy, but are pleased to see how she can handle a potentially dangerous animal.03/08/2019 at 5:17 pm #31293
Our daughters’ buddy is 9 and for a couple of years, he’s been cycling around the neighborhood with a walkie-talkie (mostly so his mom and pop can call him when it’s time for dinner). he knocks on our door and is always welcome. My girls are 7 and 9 and can cycle so I’m trying to get them on the same schedule. They walk to school on their own (not far, but they have to cross one street). We have to come get them because that’s school policy.06/03/2019 at 11:54 am #31897
Personally, I don’t have certain age requirements for my children. I allow them to take responsibility and start gaining independence through activities as simple as food prep and cleaning to playing outside without me by their sides.
That being said, thus far these tasks have been driven by capability and self-awareness of each of my two daughters (ages 7 & 4). My oldest wanted to walk to school on her own, which is two blocks from our condo, starting in first grade. It’s a very safe route and I felt totally confident in her ability to do this…and she did!
The confidence and pride that she felt from being able to walk to school by herself was amazing. She can also cook eggs all by herself, clean her room and other parts of the house, and make runs to our local corner market to pick up items for dinner…all by herself! It was so cool the first time she rode her bike the two blocks to the corner store to pick up bread for dinner. She wasn’t sure where it was in the store, but was able to ask for help and, of course, got it!
Not only do these tasks give her confidence and pride, but they also make me feel like I am doing all I can to help nurture a self-aware, independent person with the tools needed to succeed in life.07/31/2019 at 2:07 pm #32426
Take a city bus: 10
Take a subway: 12
See a Broadway show or theater movie: 7, with 11 year old sibling
Walk to neighborhood camp, with no complex intersections: 8
Bike with family on country road with some traffic and blind turns: 9
Cook on the stove unsupervised: 11
Go to the corner store to buy something, no intersections: 7
Ski advanced terrain off-piste or in trees: 7 (with adult)
Ski alone with friends, on-piste: 6
Ride a chairlift without an adult: 6
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