I would love your thoughts on talking to my partner about giving our kid space to explore v fear of predators.
Context: my partner was sexually abused as a child. She is female. Our daughter is 4.
The other day, we were at the playground and our daughter was out of sight for around 10 seconds. My wife said “where is she”. I replied, “over the other side of that fence, can’t see her at the moment”. My wife was mad that I’d left her out of sight.
I’m very rational, guided by statistics, and don’t want to be hovering over my daughter all the time. I’m also a believer that the Milk-Bottle generation and their missing kid fears are massively overblown.
However, my wife will accuse me of being laissez-faire, trying to prove a point at the risk of our daughter and coming from a male-centered perspective. She researched and sent me this article about predator statistics: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/12-confronting-statistics-on-child-sexual-abuse_b_587dab01e4b0740488c3de49
Any thoughts on how to balance? Is it about waiting to let our daughter explore only once my wife is confident that our daughter understands how to protect herself? I can’t see that happening at 4 years old. I can’t see that happening until she is 14 or so.
Or is this about me? Saying that statistics are on our side but really it is because I don’t want to bother monitoring her?
Yours, confused 😐
sorry. i posted this in the wrong forum, and can’t delete it.
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