Great New York Times piece reminding us that the pain of boredom is so awful that kids (like the rest of us) will do anything to get out of it -- including learn how to make their own fun. As Pamela Paul writes:
Life isn’t meant to be an endless parade of amusements. “That’s right,” a mother says to her daughter in Maria Semple’s 2012 novel, “Where’d You Go, Bernadette.” “You are bored. And I’m going to let you in on a little secret about life. You think it’s boring now? Well, it only gets more boring. The sooner you learn it’s on you to make life interesting, the better off you’ll be.”
(Pause here to give a shout-out to the Bernadette book: FUNNIEST BOOK IN THE WORLD!)
(Pause to also give a shout out to Pamela's own book, "Parenting, Inc,"a gimlet-eyed look at all the stuff we supposedly "must" buy for our children to succeed -- and how that mandate is changing the way we parent.)
Nowadays, subjecting a child to such inactivity is viewed as a dereliction of parental duty.... [A recent study found] that regardless of class, income or race, parents believed that “children who were bored after school should be enrolled in extracurricular activities, and that parents who were busy should stop their task and draw with their children if asked.”
It takes guts to even suggest that stopping what we're doing just because a child makes a sweet request -- "Draw with me" -- can (not must) be resisted and neither the child nor the parent-child relationship will suffer.
Do you remember any childhood boredom and what you did with it? Are you glad you had it? Tell all! - L (who spent a lot of her time/ writing in rhyme.)