People sometimes assume that to "Let Grow" is to shrug and say, "Good luck, kid!" and sally forth for a latte while the child tries to Google Map his way to school the first day.
Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure, knows that isn't so. She sent us a link to her piece in The New York Times about "How to Help Your Child Succeed at School." "I think you will find lots of Let Grow stuff to love in this, " she said. Do we ever! Especially this simple, brilliant list:
- Focus on the process, not the product.
- Encourage kids to self-advocate.
- Keep a long-term perspective.
- Maintain a healthy sleep schedule.
- Love the child you have, not the child you wish you had.
- Worship grades.
- Encourage helplessness.
- Compare kids to one another.
- Love kids based on their performance.
Jessica expands on these basics, and adds advice to, for instance, keep goals challenging but not insanely daunting, and maintain a long-term perspective: Things take a while to improve. (Sigh.)
The whole article bears reading. And if you have some strategies or insights to share that help both kids and parents have a good school year, please share!