In response to the post Child Safety Up. Child Anxiety Up. Hmm comes this painful, honest read.
Naturally, there are many reasons for any person's mental state. But constant supervision, assistance and structure could be affecting some young people adversely:
Yes. As a parent with a 10 year old that has spent time in in-patient [care]
in 3rd grade for wanting to harm herself. However it was a led up to,
what she felt was a loss of control in her life due to a lot of loss
and changes around her. It was that phase that got me to understand
how important it was that she had some control and autonomy over and
in her life now so that she can learn coping, control and growing
mechanisms. Before then, my attempts to hand her love and the world
were hurting her and making it impossible for her to navigate her world
on her own.
As scary as it is, the idea of your child taking their own life, I
think a lot has to do with giving our children coping and navigational
tools, along with being present, not controlling, while taking the time
to know them. All this aids them and allows you to see warning signs. Also, if we spent less energy trying to dictate every moment of their lives we'd
have more time to know, guide and enjoy them.
That is not a blueprint for how to parent, or how to make sure your child avoids self-harm. It's just the words of a mom looking back and considering how to move forward. She's a brave lady, and we wish her and her daughter everything good.