Even The “Hunt, Gather, Parent” Kid Gets Stopped by the Cops
Michaeleen Doucleff is author of the incredibly great, scales-falling-from-our eyes book, “Hunt, Gather, Parent.” She and her daughter Rosy traveled the world to witness the parenting practices that have been working for millennia. They watched kids eagerly hunt, gather, clean up, tend fires, and help their parents every which way, from the jungle to the tundra. And meantime, here in America, she dropped a note to Let Grow:
Dear Let Grow:
I saw your story about the 6-year-old being harassed at the store. It reminded me of what happened last month to Rosy. I was at my mom’s house outside Albuquerque, New Mexico (a suburb), and Rosy (now 7.5) walked three blocks from my mom’s house alone, just playing. Within minutes a cop came, picked her up and brought her home.
I was like…hmmm. She was three blocks away. The cop told me that “many people were worried and something could have happened.” (Where we live now, in Texas, Rosy rides her bike a mile to school and to the grocery store.)
The rest of the visit, I asked Rosy to stay within TWO blocks of the house, and she was approached by three more people “concerned” about her safety during the week we were there.
Holy smokes! I told my mom, “So Rosy is basically a prisoner in this house.” Meanwhile…. Many children have absolutely no restrictions on what they look at or engage with online. So porn, suicide, eating disorders, violence — but not playing two/three blocks from a house in a middle-class suburb. I think we are growing more backwards in our thinking.
When we asked Michaeleen if we could run her note on this blog, she wrote back to say she’d be honored. And then recalled a time she and Rosy watched a 9-year-old hunt a whale to feed a big part of his village.
Let us pledge to remember just how competent, brave, and eager to help our kids are!
Help change the laws that leave parents unsure if they are allowed to let their kids do anything on their own. Click here!
Give your kids a “Let Grow” license to carry that says, “I’m not lost or neglected!” Click here!
Approach your school about doing the (FREE!) Let Grow Experience, that gets all the kids doing more and more on their own, so competence and independence become second nature again. Students, parents, and teachers ALL WIN. Click here!
And send your kid out to kill a whale!*