Wondering what life is like for kids watched 24/7 electronically for “their safety”? Here’s a peek, inspired by an earlier post about a mom who constantly monitors her son’s activities, including what websites he visits, where he goes in real life, and what words he types:
Dear Let Grow:
My stepkids’ mom is like this. They all — the kids (17 and 15) and her husband, –are required to have Life 360 on their phones. They aren’t allowed to turn the phones off or remove the stupid app.
My husband and I were over their house during a recent hospitalization for her. Her phone pinged all the time: “Bruce left school.” “Benji arrived home” “Bruce arrived home.” “Husband arrived home. He drove 15 miles at 67 MPH. It took him 7 minutes to get home from work.” “Benji left school.” Of course, it isn’t accurate, and we knew the kid came home from school because he walked in the door before the ping and message went off.
Both kids tried to rebel and turned in their phones to their service company (month-to-month), but she insisted they have unlimited data package smart phones with Life 360 downloaded, and bought them new ones. They hate it, her husband hates it. My husband and I have tried telling the kids that their mom does it not because she doesn’t trust them or has control issues, but because it soothes and comforts her for some reason to know where they are at every second. But they know that’s BS, we’re just putting a softer face on the control-freak-with-boundary-issues behavior.
What’s upsetting is that what appears to be “control-freak-with-boundary-issues behavior” is becoming normalized simply because the electronic tools exist to assist omniscience.
Who wants to live with an all-seeing, all-knowing being (besides a deity) watching, worrying and swooping in? Remember, until now the only people who lived unde 24/7 surveillance were in prison. – L