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09/03/2018 at 10:56 am #29257
I posted on Facebook: “You know your from Burbank… California” – L.A. County. I asked whether you felt safe growing up. We had, in the 1950s and 1960s, so much freedom. We roamed. We played all kinds of make up games. Our parents didn’t even know where we were. BUT all of the mothers in the neighborhood watched out for us. We had SO MUCH FUN. Hiking the hills behind our house – saw mountain lions, deer, coyotes and much more. In the summer I had to be home at 6 to eat dinner after I washed the dishes – out the door until it got dark.
What also became apparent was that today MANY people live in FEAR. I now live in Taos, New Mexico – a VERY safe place. This young mother told me that if she didn’t know where her children were for 5 minutes she freaked out.
Today. Everything is organized. “Don’t forget Tuesday is soccer practice – Thursday is music lesson. And you have a play date on Saturday. No time left to do as they wish – Do not for a minute believe all of the devices the kids use PROMOTE creativity.
Be mindful, but PLEASE let your children be children.
Our kids need the freedom to succeed and to fail. What in the hell is going to happen to these kids who know NO INDEPENDENCE?
I was so pleased to hear about “letgrow” on NPR. Seriously what will our society be like when these children are adults? Very sad.
A side note. Nothing appears to be anyone’s fault – “it’s not my fault.” And then come the reasons – someone else caused it. “Not me.” Parents will do anything to keep their child from failing – anything. What becomes of a person who is NEVER wrong – who never fails – is always right. It’s called entitlement. I deserve (without any effort) the credit and kudos and that is all I will accept. Do NOT tell me how I could have done it better. Entitlement is a scourge upon us.
Thank you “letgrow”. You are putting out reflections that are so needed today.09/03/2018 at 1:43 pm #29268
Yes – I too just heard about LetGrow on NPR. I joined Free Range Parenting a year or two ago, but it seems a little stagnant. Maybe I should log in and take a look.
My kids are very young, but I’m hoping I can promote more independence in them from an early age. I felt that I was overprotected as a child, but I was still allowed (or even expected) to do things that are considered risky in this day and age. I would walk to a friend’s house. I would walk to school. I can’t imagine my parents ferrying me to school in a climate controlled vehicle and waiting in the drop-off line. Now, I don’t have much of a choice with my kids.
As I got older, I would sneak off to roam the neighborhood with a family up the road. It wasn’t hard. I’d just tell them I was playing with the family up the road, which was true. I just wasn’t literally playing up the road. We played in construction areas. We tried to build a fort in the woods. We’d bike everywhere. I think we found all the parks in a 5-mile radius.
I’d like my kids to have the same experiences. They are still young, but they seem to fluctuate between wanting independence and being very timid about the world around them. The younger one at the ripe age of 2 decided to grab her older sister and try to go trick-or-treating 3 days after Halloween, despite my protests. I was secretly very proud of her. She seems to be a little more thoughtful about walking away these days.
I am hoping that taking walks and making them familiar with the neighborhood is a good beginning step towards independence. I’d like to have them play with neighborhood friends, but they seem to be in short supply. Hoping that this site can help to connect.
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